List of Reasons I'm Excited about a Childfree Marriage

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Some people want to have children and do, some people want children, can't, and understandably grieve. I am in neither camp, however, so these are some of the reasons I am HIGHLY looking forward to being married without children:


1. Being able to go home after work and rest or make dinner/eat dinner with my husband in peace.

2. Having frequent date nights with my husband, anytime, anyplace, for as long as we want without having to worry about finding childcare.

3. Not needing to pay for childcare...or for that matter, diapers, medicine, food, clothes, toys, extra car insurance when they get to be teenagers, college tuition...

4. Using the money which would have gone to the above items for long vacations and excursions around the country, Europe or the world instead.

5. Or... using the money to sponsor children through Compassion, donate to shelters in the area, give to my church, help my friends or family, give nice presents to my nieces and nephews, get out of debt, attend orchestra concerts or plays and so much more!

6. Sleeping in on the days I have off without having to be woken up by crying babies or early rising kiddos. Sleeping through the night regularly in general.

7. Spending our (copious amounts) of free time on our shared or individual hobbies such as taking walks, doing my artwork, playing my instruments, writing, or serving at church together.

8. Never having arguments with my husband about how to discipline our children etc etc. We can stick to finances and inlaws haha.

9. Being mentors/godly examples as a couple to other people's children. (Being caring aunt and uncle to our nieces and nephews.)

10. Having sex with my husband anytime, anywhere in the house without worrying about noise or being intruded upon by delicate eyes and ears. (I cannot tell a lie.)

11. Visiting museums, parks, the zoo, City Museum, other people's houses etc without having to lug around strollers, diaper bags, reluctant middle schoolers, and enjoying such places because I enjoy them, not vicariously through the children.

12. Playing, playing, playing with my husband and having long conversations without being interrupted.

13. Not growing distant from my husband because of the demands of raising the children which statistally happens more often than not, even when working hard to avoid it.

14. As a couple, focusing our energies and resources on leaving a legacy on the world of a godly marriage, care of those around us, using our combined passions to change our community, city, world.

15. Being more flexible: to be able to live overseas if we desire, to have more time to serve in the church and community, to spend time working on our relationship and pursue our callings, to have a QUIET home which I can open to visitors at will, and have pets.

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